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gender non conformance is not gender dysphoria!

(This is in reaction to a comment I received online). A very common response to any discussion of gender non conforming kids is that that theyre going to commit suicide. From someone who doesn't know me, doesn't know my son. It's a way of pushing your point of view down someone's throat without having to actually discuss the issues. You better accept what I say because if not, your kid is going to die. Ugh. Not only doesn't my son have gender dysphoria, he doesn't have any sort of dysphoria at all. He's actually a generally happy child, enthusiastic about a lot of things. He has a struggle to deal with in life, that of things he loves, certain ways of being in the world  being off limits to him by society due to his sex. It's important but it is by far not the only thing going on in his life; not even the foremost. Secondly; I had gender dysphoria, and I'm still here. but more on that another time.

I need to expose my son to the transgender concept

I've come to the conclusion that I have to be the one to expose my son  to the transgender concept I just have no clue when and how. He's definitely too young now but how will I know when he isn't? And what if I miss and I do it too soon? It has to be me and not society; and at the age when I have the ability to inoculate him somewhat against the pro trans propaganda binge that I've heard some young teens go through. It has to be me because I need to continue be a trustworthy source of information for him. My parents didn't talk to me about sex and lo and behold; when the time came I didn't talk to them. I suppose when he's old enough to have an intelligent discussion about sexuality? (He isn't now; I've tried and he doesn't get it).  Or is that too late? One thing I know is that its important not to talk about it with disdain. That would just close off communication. Actually its important for me to get rid of the disdain altogether at any

worried about bullying

Dilemmas: Do I encourage him to flaunt social standards at school, or to abide by them? This ridiculous article just came out, about a 9 year old being bullied for being "gay." the mother supposedly accepted his "sexual orientation." You know I don't buy that at age 9. and I was right. Well upon reading the article further; it seems that the kid wanted to wear nailpolish to school. (something I wasn't allowed to do as a 9 year old girl myself, btw). My question is who convinced him that fingernails are a sexual orientation? Seems like both the school and the Mom. Whatever the kid was bullied to death and I'm terrified of that happening to my son. Perhaps I am making a mountain out of a molehill? We went to the public pool the other day; and my kids were climbing on some childrens' play structures- slides and swings- on the side. My kids are great climbers. A 7 year old boy suddenly said "Are you a boy or a girl?" "I'